It's true, I was like all into this for a few months and your wife comes along and says some stupid [EXPLETIVE REMOVED] like "aren't you like too old for this?"
Whoa, whoa, whoa! This can happen and it doesn't matter whether you are married or not. Growing up, my mom said things like this to the girls:
- "Every dog likes a little meat on his bones". Sir Mix-a-Lot said it best!
- "Let a man be a man, most importantly don't stomp out the little boy in him."
To the boys, she said things like:
- "Tell her she is beautiful every day, not just when she wears makeup or gets a new hairstyle."
- "Be helpful all of the time, not just when she asks."
To the boys and girls she said things like:
- "Treat the other like they mean the world to you and they will do the same for you. Do not settle for less."
- "Play your cards close to your chest, keep them guessing what's next. Keep it spontaneous."
- "Last but not least, be supportive!"
I am female, in my 40s, (1) Phantom 4, (1) Mavic Pro, (1) OSMO Mobile, (1) white xbox OneS 2TB, (1) red Gears of War xbox OneS 2TB, (1) xbox One 2TB, (1) PS4, I'll stop here because I have many hobbies and so does the DB. I am not a wife, I've been told I am a keeper though. It has nothing to do with being a "wife". Maybe more of what is she interested in? In my relationship we have an understanding...we will not always like the same thing. I have
my likes, he has
his likes, and we have
our likes. When one of us is doing something the other does not like, the other one can go do their thing. When one of us is doing something the other likes, they are welcome to join in or not.
Maybe finding that happy medium is the key. I am not saying you gotta go all gushy and shower her and overdo it just to get what you want either. I don't know your significant others but it may work, I myself don't require that. We set a limit and time period, then take turns buying. For example, every 6 months $1200 gets saved. $50 is taken out of each of our paychecks and direct deposited into a separate bank account called "fun". The rest of our checks is direct deposited into the main bank account. We then take turns spending it. Some times we forego buying "toys" and spend it on a vacay.
My daughter is an adult now, sh and her boyfriend are in their 20s. I have a 5 year old grandson. I also have my little sister that I have had custody of since she was 15. We all live in the same household. They do some of the same things as me and DB. Then we have days we all go our separate ways.
Design a plan to take care of needs first and wants second. Design a list of hobbies to do apart and together. Design the order of which things are obtained. Design the savings plan and when the allotments will be given out. Maybe individual hobbies are obtained first, then group hobbies. Implement all of the designs, I'm rooting for ya!